Self Confidence Pays Off

I was in my local hospital yesterday for a heart consultation. As I was waiting for my appointment, I watched all the staff walking by, going about their duties.

While I was watching I noticed that the better looking staff seemed (to me anyway) to have the better jobs. It occurred to me that this could be for a number of reasons:

1) I am attracted to people in power? - Maybe, but I don't think so. It could be that their position within the hospital made them appear more attractive. Possibly, but I doubt it.

2) Better looking people are more employable? Well, I dread to think of the backlash I would receive if I advocated that school of thought, but I expect there are people in this world who do think that.

3) These people actually think of themselves as better looking, and this raises their own self confidence and self esteem? Bingo! This is where the heart of it is, in my opinion. You see, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. In actual fact, and I say this with sincerity, I truly believe there is no such thing as an ugly person. Beauty is not just about what we look like, it's about who we are. If you believe in yourself enough, then the sky is the limit. And, unfortunately, good looking people seem to get all the encouragement and self reinforcement they want. In fact, they probably don't even realise it.

If someone thinks of themselves as 'ugly', their own self esteem is going to be way down. And this will affect their entire outlook on life. It will make them think they are no good at anything.

I believe this starts from an early age. Imagine yourself as a three year old. You watch TV and see superheros flying through the air, holding up buildings and stopping express trains with their bare hands. You can do that! Whoosh!! You're off.

But, by the time you're leaving school to look for your first job, you've heard "You can't do that", "Don't do this", "You'll never make it" so many times, you'll believe it. You've just had the life sucked out of you.

Let's face it, if you believe you can do something, you'll find a way to make it happen. A little thing like a failure just makes you more determined. In fact, the only true way to fail is to not try at all, or to give up. Believe in yourself and you can do anything.

Ziggy Whybrow